We live in a numb society, unempathetic with our own and each other’s pain. We are unable to truly feel and we act out all over the place. We constantly unconsciously recreate our painful childhood realities and coming from that wounded place we uncompromisingly chase after the things we never got, but always longed for.
We are unable to live our fullest potential, we lie, we hide and we cheat and we often inflict pain onto others and therewith ourselves. We also tend to destroy and suffocate important relationships, even entire families. And with all of that we enforce the one thing we all desperately try to avoid – feeling lonely, isolated and disconnected. The worst thing about it is that we somehow have come to accept the status quo. We often remain blind and unaware of how much we are prisoners of our past.
For both, Aleah & Dan, that status quo was just not gonna do it. It was simply not good enough. It is not true that relationships have to be dysfunctional, that love and passion goes lost and that life is one of chronic unhappiness and unfulfillment. We just don’t buy into it. However, if we want to change, we have to understand that healing is no longer optional. When we suffer in our inner world, we automatically bring suffering to the outer world and the people around us.
in our experience, at the root of individual human suffering too often lies one universal trauma.
In our experience, at the root of individual human suffering lies one universal trauma; the early absence of secure love or the so-called psychological mother-wound. This trauma brings a myriad of negative consequences such as low self-worth, deep insecurity and the constant looking for and chasing after love, appreciation and approval from the outside. It is also mainly responsible for dysfunctional relationships and our inability to connect on a deeper level and create emotional and sexual intimacy.